Honesty

Day 29
Honesty

How many people truly share the truth on how they are doing when asked, how are you? I am NOT saying that is a time to vent. I am saying that is the time to connect. Since most people don’t expect lengthy responses, there is no pressure to make it long. So we are faced with the question, how do you honestly share without overdoing it? Well first, you need time to daily reflect on how you are doing and what you are doing. You may have started a new hobby, but apprehension about your skills may stop you from sharing this exciting new interest. It is not so much about the details of roller coaster emotions but our personal response is what really makes the difference. For example, when how you are doing, you may respond hopeful with a brief description.”Hopeful. I’m learning to play a guitar.” Wouldn’t that act as a great icebreaker? Humor works great, but never at the expense of honesty. If you are grieving or suffering, you may respond with just prayerful. “Prayerful.” In this this case, explanation is only given when asked, but honesty is our intention.
Let’s brainstorm on honest responses for different scenarios.
For days you are in physical pain
For days we are feeling persecuted
For days we have disappointment

You maybe asking, what does this have to do with Positive Posture. Well, honesty is the key that can unlock the doors to miracles. As a person that’s recovering from hurts, hang ups and habits, I realize the first step in healing is acknowledging that I have a problem. This level of honesty with myself first, empowers me to go to God and ask for help. It frees me to share both trials and triumphs with those who walk beside me in the fight. Honesty will strengthen self esteem in how it builds confidence in myself to make good choices. Confidence is the most beautiful thing about an attractive personality.

Day 27
Had such an amazing stretching session with my husband. 45 minutes and I’m feeling so relaxed. Stretching helps with posture. Positive posture is almost impossible with tight chest muscles. It took months in physical therapy before I saw improvements in my posture a year ago. That was the best I ever felt concerning posture. I definitely want to include stretching into my daily routine.

Day 20
Took the walking from my home to the streets. I had a Dr. appointment that was a little over a mile away. We have a trail within our community that makes walking to places nearby a sheer joy. I worked up a sweat but nothing too embarrassing. So glad I took the challenge.

Day 14
I have included walking to my posture routine. I click on YouTube and allow Leslie Sampson to lead me in walking a mile. It is always difficult to start something new. In fact, starting is the HARDEST part. I’m glad to come across this video because she has made walking a mile so much easier. 15 minutes and I’m done!

40 Days to Positive Posture

This morning I read a quote by an unknown author on Instagram, “Don’t quit, if you are tired just take a nap”. I know that it was only 10:15 a.m. but I had a pretty bumpy night. I went to bed around 2 a.m. and a few hours after that my youngest got up twice to lay down between hubby and me. Although I took her back to bed, she returned and that second time I was too tired to get back up again. With their school schedule, sleeping in is not an option. Around 7:30 a.m., I woke up and put on a happy face (no one wants to wake up to a grouch), and said “good morning”. It was time to put on my Mommy hat as I swept through the house, cutting on lights and making sure everyone was up and out of bed. I was able to push forward without showing fatigue. As soon as they left, I tried to start the day but could feel the bed calling me for thirty more minutes.

Sleep is important to living a healthy and disciplined lifestyle. In the world we live in today, everyone is looking for a way to gain an edge. They think they need more time, so they burn the midnight oil trying to gain the edge. That’s ironic because going to bed before 12 a.m. and getting 8 hours of sleep actually helps your body and mind to function at its best. I know, by doing the opposite, I was creating an environment that I feared the most. In my opinion, sleep deprivation results in an unproductive and irritable edgy person. Some of you may agree with me but some of you are saying “not me”. For real…look up edge and what did you find? Yes, it can mean a favorable margin, but it also means the border of something. Many of us push ourselves to the line, not thinking that it will have a negative impact on the bottom line.

For the next 40 days, I will be taking a journey to positive posture. My late night last night opened my eyes to one area to concentrate on, sleep and rest. It has its place on this journey, but so does exercise and family.

Proper posture has not been the norm amongst us young people. We have heard of having a strong core, but we don’t always stop to think of what that could mean. I am taking this journey, because I believe in giving myself a second chance. Sometimes we look at ourselves and our lives and feel, this is just me. We work on our career goals of making more money. We work on relationship goals and learn to make time for people that are important in our lives. Sadly, we even get lost in our titles and use it to define our lives. We are created for more than that. God has a purpose for our lives, but most importantly, He loves us and created us to have fellowship with Him. I did not know what that meant for a long time. I was doing good things, but I measured my success by those good things. In the midst of accomplishing all of those good things, I woke up. I had taken the first step of understanding that Jesus died for my sins. I had taken the next step, and pushed past my fears of the Holy Spirit. It was the final step of loving someone sacrificially that opened my eyes to my fragile humanity. That was the first time that I realized, I can’t do this alone.

Question time: What does having a strong core mean to you? What does sleep have to do with having a strong core?

The Love Story

First, Hollywood has painted an unrealistic picture of romance. Sometimes life can get messy and no one tells us how to clean it up. That is not romantic to me.

In college, I honestly believed that focusing on my relationship with God would be the thing that would draw my husband to me. God was and still is my very law of attraction. I believe that as I draw nearer to Christ, then everything right would draw near to me. My family laughed and laughed saying, “what would he do? Knock on the door and say the Lord sent me.” And that’s just what happened.

During my junior year, I started reading Ruth in the Holy Bible. My study of it was very casual but interesting. Every time I opened it up, the same guy would knock on my door. This young man and I had been acquaintances but this peculiar incident only confirmed that God had sent my Mr. Right. Don’t get me wrong, this was an extremely handsome young man. He must have found me irresistible because he kept coming around. It was not Hollywood…but what would you call it? I had never heard of an incident like this. The young man and I remained friends for years; in fact, our first kiss was five years later after he met my entire family for the first time.

Have you ever experienced an incident where being focused on priorities resulted in even more blessings later on? Let us know by sharing in the comment section.

Your Success

When I attended college, I had made a vow to finish college and to try to do so debt free, even if it meant working at McDonalds to pay for it. I was to finish no matter how long it took me. I found a way to concentrate on the efforts or the WORK it took to graduate and not the end outcome alone of just getting the paper. I asked myself, what would it take to attend and obtain a college degree?  I was a first generation college graduate. Since I had not seen it done, I had to figure it out on my own.

Success is possible for everyone. When I say success, I mean realistic goals are attainable. What is your definition of success? I really want to know. Please share in the comments section. Do you define success by your relationships or by what money can buy? Have you adopted someone else’s definition of success and consequently their goals as well?

Look, you must create your own definition of success. When you have created that definition, you can achieve success. I was able to graduate with the equivalent dual degree in only four years by focusing on the work I had to do. I was able to serve freely without the worry of college debt. I define success as matriculating through life while making friends along the way. Have you created your definition of success. You can move forward on your goals. This is a journey you have to be 100% committed too. You are worth it!

 

Relationship Goals

Let’s talk about relationship goals. I am definitely not a relationship guru, but I have learned quite a bit throughout the years. Friendship is the best way to start any relationship but healthy friendships can’t develop if you approach them “looking for the ONE”. That kind of attitude can drive people away.

Here are examples of relationship goals that some of us make.
Poor goal:
I want to be married

Better goal:
I want to have the invaluable qualities of being loving and sharing so that I can make a great mate.

Best goal:
I want to be the best person that I possibly can be with intrinsic qualities of loving and respecting myself and others because it is what’s right.

Out of these examples, the best goal focuses on what you need to do for living, not for obtaining a relationship with a person. Before I met my husband, the quote that revolved in my head “If I am busy doing what I need to do and he is busy doing what he needs to do, then God will make sure our paths cross at the right time.” It did just that and when we met, he stood out as a genuine and vivacious young man. In my opinion, the attraction got in the way of friendship. Although we only spoke on the phone after we first met, things were revealed about his other relationships that made me not trust him. Because he valued our friendship, he asked if we could start over and this time he would be above board with me.

Most of my friends made commitments to be celibate until marriage, and hanging out was so much easier without the pressure of sex. Joking and talking with my female and male friends was the highlight of my college life. Although we all attended different churches, we all got along so well together. Our outings were huge groups of us young people just hanging out. It was nice being myself and not having the pressure of pretending so that I can get someone to like me.

I think I had so many friends because I knew how to laugh at myself. If it wasn’t too serious, I would relax and enjoy the company. Not all people will look out for your best interest, so I had to put a lot in the preliminary part of friendship. What is the preliminary? Well I chose to surround myself with people that helped me to be a better version of me. I loved everybody and could be friends with anyone but NOT everybody wanted to share the paths I chose to take and that is ok. Part of guarding my heart is contributed to that old saying “choose your friends wisely”. I’m glad I was paying attention.

I don’t believe in “what ifs”, so I do not want to relive those days. I made the most of it. It was real life…full of the good, bad and the ugly. I understood that life is made of moments that we can never get back. I did not limit myself to just enjoying time with friends, but enjoyed life even if it was solo. If I wanted to have a nice dinner alone, I enjoyed myself. If I wanted to take a long walk in the park, I enjoyed myself. All because I decided that a relationship did not define me or my importance. I embraced the moments and I’m so thankful that I did.